Breastfeeding can be one of the most rewarding parts of motherhood, but let’s be honest—it’s not always easy. If you're feeling frustrated, exhausted, or ready to stop breastfeeding, know that you’re not alone. Many moms experience moments when their breastfeeding relationship feels overwhelming, and it’s completely normal to feel discouraged at times. This guide offers practical tips, gentle encouragement, and a reminder that whatever challenges you face, you don’t have to go through it alone. 

Acknowledge Your Effort - Breastfeeding Can Be Hard!

Breastfeeding is hard work, and you’re doing an amazing job—even if it doesn’t always feel that way. Give yourself credit for every feeding, every pump session, and every ounce of effort. Every moment you dedicate to breastfeeding, whether it’s one feeding or many, is an act of love for your baby. Celebrate your milestones, whether with a small treat or a special outing—something like “One Month Down, Still Flowin’ Strong!” can help you honor your progress.

The early weeks can be challenging, but things often get easier with time and practice. Newborns feed frequently—usually 8–12 times per day—and while these small feeds perfectly match their tiny tummies, the sheer number of breastfeeds can feel overwhelming. Your body is adjusting and recovering, and it’s normal for the early days to feel never-ending. Be patient with yourself, give yourself grace, and remember that this stage is temporary—it passes more quickly than it feels.

Make Sure You're Taking Care of Yourself

Breastfeeding can feel exhausting at times, and it’s okay to give yourself permission to pause or adjust. Even short breaks can help you feel more ready, and refreshed, for the next feeding.

  • Take short breaks: Step away for a few minutes, take deep breaths, and let a partner, friend, or family member care for your baby.

  • Prioritize rest: Sleep whenever possible to help your body recover and maintain your energy.

  • Eat and hydrate: Nutritious meals and plenty of water support your physical health and breast milk supply.

  • Accept help: Allow others to assist with babycare or household tasks—small gestures can make a big difference.

  • Address discomfort: If you’re experiencing painful breasts or other breastfeeding challenges, try pain relief strategies and consult a lactation professional.

  • Be gentle with yourself: Remember that taking care of yourself is just as important as caring for your baby—self-care supports both of you.

Know that Breastfeeding Changes As Your Baby Grows

As your baby grows, their feeding patterns and behaviors can change quickly—sometimes week to week. Experts recommend long-term breastfeeding, so before stopping, it’s helpful to recognize how your feeding approach may need to adapt at different ages and stages.

  • More active feeds: A baby who was once calm and relaxed may now be squirming, distracted, or attempting “breastfeeding gymnastics,” feeding in any position they like.

  • Diet and feeding changes: As your older baby starts eating solid foods and breast milk is no longer their main source of nutrition, feeding patterns and diaper output may change.

  • Teething and fussiness: Many babies become fussy due to teething, increased mobility, and shifting nap times, leading to sleep regressions and more frequent nighttime feedings.

  • Maternal changes: Hormonal changes as fertility returns or with birth control use can affect mood and may cause temporary dips in breast milk production.

  • Adapting your approach: These changes are normal, and you may need to try different approaches to keep breastfeeding comfortable and enjoyable for both you and your baby.

What Are My Options If I Want to Stop Breastfeeding?

If breastfeeding is causing more stress than joy, it’s okay to explore different feeding options. Remember, there’s no single “right” way to nourish your baby. What matters most is that your baby is fed, loved, and cared for, while you support your own mental health and well-being.

  • Combine feeding methods: Some mothers combine breastfeeding with pumping and bottle feeding or switch to exclusively pumping. Even small amounts of breast milk provides lasting benefits.

  • Supplement with formula: Others incorporate infant formula alongside breast milk to meet baby’s nutritional needs or switch to formula entirely.

  • Weaning options: Partial weaning or gradual weaning can help you transition at a pace that feels comfortable for both you and your baby.

  • Prioritize flexibility: Adjust your approach as needed, knowing that your baby will thrive with your loving support.

  • Support matters: Lean on your partner, friends, and lactation consultant for guidance and encouragement throughout this stage.

  • You can change your mind: Some mothers who decide to stop breastfeeding, are later able to return to it, especially if they've kept up their milk supply with regular pumping.

Reach Out for Support

Breastfeeding is easier when you’re not doing it alone. If you’re struggling with pain, low milk supply, or just feeling discouraged, reach out for support—help is available.

A lactation consultant can be an incredible resource for both practical and emotional guidance. They can help you overcome breastfeeding challenges, support you in meeting your feeding goals, and guide you through the weaning process when the time comes. You can also lean on your support network—your partner, a trusted friend, or a healthcare provider. Talking with someone who understands what you’re going through can make a huge difference.

Many hospitals and community organizations offer breastfeeding or postpartum support groups, and there are wonderful virtual communities online where you can connect, share, and learn from others who’ve been in your shoes.

Thinking about stopping breastfeeding doesn’t mean you’ve failed—it means you’re human, and this journey is challenging. Whether you decide to continue, take a break, or transition to another feeding approach, what matters most is that your baby is fed, loved, and cared for—and that you’re caring for yourself too. Give yourself grace and remember that every step you take is part of your parenting journey. You are doing an incredible job, and you are not alone.

Disclaimer: Our classes and accompanying materials are intended for general education purposes and should not replace medical advice. For personalized recommendations, please consult your healthcare provider and/or lactation consultant.