Holiday Breastfeeding: Tips for Managing Family Gatherings

Every mom deserves a comfortable, peaceful space to nurse or pump, even during bustling holiday gatherings. Unless you’re hosting a holiday gathering, you’ll have to set up your own lactation space. Before attending family events, ask your hosts to help by providing a room or space with comfortable seating, plenty of electrical outlets, and a calming, clutter-free area if possible (we know that’s not always the case, but it doesn’t hurt to ask). Take a moment to scout out potential quiet areas once you arrive. This might be a spare bedroom, a cozy corner of the living room, or even a peaceful spot on the back porch if weather permits.

If pumping, let your loved ones know you’ll need access to the sink and some highly coveted fridge space to store your breast milk. Consider bringing along a few comfort items to create your own little nursing sanctuary. A lightweight nursing cover (if you choose to use one), nursing pillows or lumbar support cushions, a water bottle, a tablet or book, nipple care products, compression garments, and, of course, your favorite breast pump can help you feel more at ease. 

Remember, mama—you're not being antisocial by taking these breaks. You're taking care of your little one and yourself! 

You’ll also need a few practical items to ensure you’re set up for pumping success. Before heading to holiday gatherings, consider these preparation tips:

• Pack your breastfeeding essentials and extra breast pump parts in an easily accessible bag.
• Bring extra nursing pads, milk storage bags, any spare parts or accessories you think you might need, ice packs, and a clean shirt or sweater for unexpected leaks.
• Consider having a family member or friend designated as your "buffer" who can help create space when you need it.
• Keep healthy snacks and water to munch and sip on, as needed.

The amount of practical and comforting items you bring will depend on the duration of your stay. Plan ahead and pack more if you’re staying a few nights, or pare it down to the essentials if you know you’ll only be away a few hours. 

Holiday meals often run on their own schedule, and baby’s feeding needs do too! Rather than trying to completely adjust your feeding routine, try these strategies for finding balance:

• Feed or pump just before large family meals, so you can enjoy your food while it's hot.
• Consider wearing nursing-friendly clothing that allow for quick ad hoc feedings as needed.  
• Keep an eye on your baby's hunger cues.
• Have a plan for warming stored milk if you're using bottles for some feeds.

While it’s not always possible to anticipate your baby’s feeding needs—or the timing of your holiday dinner—having a flexible game plan can help make the experience a little easier!

Holiday schedules can be unpredictable, but frequent feedings and maintaining regular milk expression is crucial for your supply. Set phone reminders for regular feeding or pumping sessions if you tend to lose track of time during social events. If you're away from your baby, stick to your typical pumping schedule as much as possible.

It's also important to note that stress can impact milk production, so take deep breaths and remember that perfect is not the goal—consistency is.

Comfortable clothing is always a good idea as your body recovers from birth, as are practical options that support nursing. But that doesn't mean you have to give up on style during the holidays, mama! From fun, tacky sweaters to sequins, shiny fabricates, and classic greens and reds, the holiday season presents an exciting opportunity to have some fun with your postpartum wardrobe.

Pair your favorite high-waisted leggings with a sparkly sweater or satin, button-down blouse. Try a nursing dress in red or green for practicality and a bit of festive flair, or get the whole family to join in on matching flannel pajamas for an extra cozy celebration.

If you're feeling uninspired by your wardrobe and don't want to invest in new pieces, ask friends or family members for gently-used maternity wear and postpartum options. You can also have fun with layering! Wrap yourself in a large, patterned blanket scarf or play with color and throw on a bright, flowy cardigan. And don't forget about postpartum compression garments, which can offer added support during your recovery period—many even fit seamlessly and comfortably under clothing!

Whatever you decide to wear, you deserve to look good and feel confident throughout this transition period, mama.

Many holiday celebrations include alcoholic beverages, and you might be wondering how to participate safely. While there is no level of alcohol in breast milk that is considered safe for a baby to drink, if you do choose to drink, stick to just one or two alcoholic drinks per week. It's also important to make sure the alcohol has been completely metabolized and removed from your system before pumping or breastfeeding.

If you're considering a glass of wine or a cocktail, refer to our alcohol and breastfeeding guide for more information on standard drink weights and the amount of time it takes 14 grams of alcohol to leave your breast milk.

If you do choose to drink, consider these strategies:

• Enjoy one celebratory drink right after nursing or pumping.
• Keep pumped milk on hand. 
• Ensure your partner, or another adult, won’t be drinking and will be responsible for taking care of the baby.
• Remember that "pumping and dumping" isn't necessary—alcohol naturally leaves breast milk as it leaves your bloodstream. 

You can also try a few fun, festive mocktails, opt for cozy and warm teas, or decadent hot chocolates! 

Your breastfeeding journey is unique and personal. While your family may have different ideas about infant feeding, you have every right to maintain the routine that works for you and your baby.

Be direct but kind when communicating your needs. Let hosts know in advance that you'll need some private time and space throughout the gathering. Most family members will be understanding, especially if you explain your needs clearly and appreciate their support.

Family members often have plenty of opinions about infant feeding, and not all advice aligns with current recommendations.

Stay confident in your choices, mama. You know your baby and your body best. When faced with unsolicited advice, try responding with gentle but firm phrases like, "Thank you for caring about us. We're following our pediatrician's current recommendations," or "This approach is working well for us right now."

Remember that the greatest gift you can give your little one is meeting their needs with confidence and care. Your dedication to breastfeeding, even during busy holiday times, is admirable.

If you're feeling overwhelmed about navigating holiday travel or a busy festive schedule, reach out to your healthcare provider or a certified lactation consultant. And don't forget that Aeroflow Breastpumps is here to support your journey with insurance-covered breast pumps and accessories that can make holiday breastfeeding easier to navigate.

Embrace the season with your little one, mama! With some preparation and self-advocacy, you can maintain your breastfeeding goals while creating beautiful holiday memories together.