Weaning is the gradual process of your baby shifting from breastfeeding to other sources of nourishment. It’s a natural step in your little one’s growth, but it can also bring up mixed emotions for you as a parent. Every weaning journey looks different—shaped by your baby’s needs, your health, and your family’s lifestyle. Whether this transition comes earlier than you imagined or right when you feel ready, you are not alone. This guide is here to walk with you, offering gentle encouragement, practical tips, and reassurance to help make the experience smoother and more positive for both you and your baby.

How Long Should I Breastfeed?

For the best health outcomes, the AAP (American Academy of Pediatrics) recommends exclusive breastfeeding for about the first 6 months. After that, breastfeeding is encouraged to continue alongside complementary foods for 2 years or longer—whatever feels right for you and your baby. Once your little one reaches 6 months, offering small amounts of solid foods is often the first step toward weaning. Around this time, many babies also begin experimenting with finger foods, sippy and straw cups, and exploring a wider variety of family foods, depending on their readiness and interest.

During this stage, solid foods are mostly about exploration—tasting, touching, and learning—while breast milk still provides most of your baby’s nutrition. Until your little one is eating regular, consistent meals, think of solids as an addition to breastfeeding rather than a replacement for it.

Sometimes, moms feel pressure to wean—whether due to medications, illness, life changes, or even well-meaning advice from friends or family. In these situations, talking with a lactation consultant can be really helpful. Often, it’s possible to continue breastfeeding, even when challenges arise. And there’s no set age at which a child must be weaned. As long as breastfeeding works for you and your baby, it can continue for as long as you like. This relationship is unique to you and your little one, and the choice to wean is a personal decision.

When is a Good Time to Wean?

Timing can make a big difference. If possible, try to avoid weaning during stressful periods, such as illness, a big move, or other life changes. Choosing calmer moments helps both you and your baby adjust more smoothly. Begin by shortening feedings, starting with those your baby is least attached to, and gradually eliminating others. If your baby usually breastfeeds to sleep, try breaking the habit with a walk in the stroller or timed car ride. Nighttime weaning can take longer. Offer a snack or drink before bed, and consider having your partner provide comfort during night wakings. Consistency helps your child adjust to the new routine.

Getting Started with Weaning

Weaning doesn’t need to happen all at once. Taking it slow usually works best, allowing both you and your baby to adjust comfortably. There are two common approaches:

  • Mother-led weaning: You gradually make changes to reduce breastfeeding sessions over time.

  • Infant led weaning: Your baby naturally begins to nurse less as they grow and develop interest in other foods and drinks.

Here are some practical strategies to help along the way:

Replace One Feeding at a Time

You can start the weaning process by replacing the feeding your little one is least attached to. For babies under 12 months of age, it’s recommended to swap that feeding with a bottle or cup of expressed breast milk or infant formula. Once your child reaches their first birthday, you can offer whole cow’s milk along with family foods, snacks, and water. Taking this transition slowly—just one feeding at a time—helps both your baby and your body adjust without sudden changes.

Offer Regular Meals and Snacks

To ensure your little one isn’t breastfeeding out of hunger or thirst, provide a balanced diet with fruits, vegetables, grains, protein, and healthy drinks like water or milk. Offering regular meals and snacks, and anticipating times when your baby might be hungry, can make the process smoother.

Don’t Offer, But Don’t Deny

A gentle first step is to stop offering the breast proactively. Instead, allow your baby to breastfeed only when they ask. This gives them more control while helping them gradually reduce sessions.

Use Distraction and Comfort

If your little one asks to breastfeed, offer comfort in other ways—hugs, songs, or a favorite activity. Introducing new sources of comfort—like a favorite toy, a warm bath, or more storytime—can help fill the gap left by breastfeeding. Sometimes a small distraction, like a snack or going outside, can help shift their attention to something other than breastfeeding.

Change Your Routine Gradually

Breastfeeding often provides comfort, soothing, and help with falling asleep. Slowly mixing up your routine—offering new sleep or comfort rituals—can reduce reliance on breastfeeding while still keeping your baby comfortable and secure. You don’t need to stop all at once. For example, you might wean from night feedings first, while continuing to breastfeed during the day, at naps, or at bedtime.

Be Patient and Consistent

As breastfeeding comes to an end, your baby may look for comfort in new ways. This is a normal part of the transition, and offering extra support helps them adjust smoothly. Even when the change feels challenging, try to remain calm. Keeping familiar routines can help your baby feel safe and secure. Offer plenty of cuddles, hugs, gentle rocking, or simply sitting together. Physical closeness is one of the most reassuring ways to comfort your little one.

Caring for Yourself During Weaning

Weaning can be a big adjustment—not just for your baby, but for your body too. Taking care of yourself is important for comfort, health, and peace of mind.

  • Wear a Supportive Bra: Choose a bra that feels comfortable and supportive without being too tight. Proper support can help prevent discomfort or plugged ducts.

  • Manage Breast Engorgement: If your breasts feel overly full, try cold compresses or, if it’s safe for you, an over-the-counter pain reliever like ibuprofen to reduce swelling and discomfort.

  • Try Cabbage Leaves: Some moms find relief by placing cold cabbage leaves in their bra until they wilt. While research hasn’t proven it’s more effective than other remedies, it can be soothing.

  • Hand Expression: A small amount of hand expression can ease fullness without stimulating extra milk production, giving you gentle comfort.

  • Herbal and Medical Support: Sage or peppermint tea may help reduce milk supply, and in some cases, medication can assist—especially if you need to wean suddenly. Always check with your healthcare provider to find safe options for your situation.

  • Watch for Signs of Infection: If you notice redness, fever, or flu-like symptoms, contact your healthcare provider to rule out mastitis.

Finding Support Along the Way

Weaning can bring a mix of emotions, and having support can make the process much easier. Lean on your partner, family, or friends for emotional and practical support. Whether it's comforting your baby, helping with household tasks, or simply listening, having others by your side can ease the transition. Connecting with other mothers—online or in person—who have navigated the weaning process can offer guidance and encouragement. If you need personalized guidance, a lactation consultant can provide expert support tailored to your needs.

As your breastfeeding journey evolves, remember that both you and your baby are still learning and growing. This transition is an opportunity to discover new ways to soothe, connect, and nurture your little one. Long after you've reached this important milestone, the bond you’ve built and the health foundations you’ve established will last a lifetime.

Disclaimer: Our classes and accompanying materials are intended for general education purposes and should not replace medical advice. For personalized recommendations, please consult your healthcare provider and/or lactation consultant.