Being a new parent can feel overwhelming, especially when your baby is fussy. It’s completely natural to feel helpless and unsure of how to comfort your little one when they’re unsettled, uncomfortable, or crying. Human babies are born with limited ways to communicate, and fussiness is one of their earliest signals. Please know that these feelings are common, and most babies go through phases of fussiness as they grow. This guide is designed to help parents find gentle ways to soothe their baby while improving their own confidence and well-being.

Why Is My Baby SO Fussy?

Babies can cry or fuss for many reasons, and it may take time to figure out what’s bothering them. Some common causes include:

Hunger

Newborns have tiny tummies and need to eat frequently—at least 8-12 times per day. Crying is often a late hunger cue, so watch for earlier signs of hunger like lip smacking, rooting, or sucking on their hands. Feeding early reduces frustration and helps calm babies quickly.

Connection

Helpless infants crave closeness. Simply holding them in skin-to-skin contact or in a baby carrier can trigger a neurological response that soothes and reassures them.

Discomfort

Wet diapers, gas, or needing to move after being in a car seat or baby swing too long can trigger a baby’s fussiness. A quick diaper change, burping, or repositioning can make a big difference with little problems like these.

Tiredness

Newborns get overtired easily. Tracking sleep patterns can increase a new parent’s chances of anticipating fussy periods, though hours of infant sleep vary widely between newborns. There are many kinds of variations in what’s considered normal.

Overstimulation

A noisy environment, too much activity, or new experiences can overwhelm your baby, causing fussiness.

Growth Spurts

Around 3 and 6 weeks of age, and again at 3 months, babies often go through growth spurts and may need to breastfeed more frequently to help increase your milk supply and meet their growing needs. Increased feeding can make them seem extra fussy, but these phases are temporary.

Colic

Some babies have periods of persistent crying, for no apparent reason, especially in the late afternoon or evening. This is sometimes called "colic" and while the cause of colic is unknown, it typically improves after the first few months.

Teething

Sore, swollen gums and drooling can make even the happiest baby fussy at times. Early signs of teething can begin as early as 3-4 months of age. Comfort sucking, teething toys, or gentle gum massage can bring relief.

Food Intolerance

Some fussiness may signal a reaction to certain foods, either through breastfeeding or formula. Medical doctors can help rule out intolerance or allergies safely.

How Can I Comfort My Fussy Baby?

Every baby is different, so it’s important to experiment and see what works best. While a popular belief says you might “spoil” a baby by holding them often, the truth is that responding to your infant's needs builds security and trust. Be patient, and keep trying new ideas until you find what helps your little one feel calm, secure, and loved.

Breastfeeding

Beyond nutrition, breastfeeding provides warmth, comfort, and security. From the first hour of birth, many infants derive much pleasure sucking, which helps soothe and settle them.

Comfort Sucking

Offering a pacifier or allowing your crying baby to suckle for comfort triggers an innate calming reflex. This is a good thing for fussy babies, helping them feel secure and reducing stress for both baby and other family members.

Swaddling for Comfort and Security

Swaddling can be a helpful way to calm fussy babies, especially in the early weeks when the startle reflex is strong. Wrapping your baby snugly in a soft blanket can provide a sense of security, mimicking the cozy environment they experienced in the womb. Many infants find swaddling soothing and it can reduce crying, help them sleep more soundly, and make calming techniques more effective. Stop swaddling as soon as your baby shows signs of attempting to roll over.

Babywearing

Carrying your infant in a soft carrier, sling, or wrap helps guide parents through early bonding. Sometimes your baby simply needs to be close to you or in the arms of a loving adult. Your height, heart rate, and gentle movement work together to provide the comfort and closeness they crave, while also giving you hands-free convenience.

Motion

Gentle rocking in your arms, a rocking chair, or in a baby swing can soothe your little one. Softly bouncing on an exercise ball, while holding them, can provide a soothing jiggly motion that helps calm and ease discomfort.

Change of Scenery

Sometimes a change of scenery can work wonders. Stepping outside for some fresh air, a walk around the block, or a short car ride may help shift your baby’s mood and provide a fresh perspective.

Calm Environment

Soft lighting, quiet surroundings, or gentle music can help settle babies. Soothing sounds like white noise, ocean sounds, or even the hum of a vacuum cleaner in another room can provide a comforting, rhythmic background that helps calm and relax some infants.

Warm Bath or Infant Massage

A warm bath or gentle massage can relax muscles, reduce gas discomfort, and improve overall sleep quality. If baths normally make your baby cry, try taking a bath together. Supporting your baby's head and neck while they float or relaxing with them skin-to-skin on your chest can be a wonderful way to relax before bedtime.

Relief for Colic or Tummy Distress

If your baby is dealing with digestive discomfort, try holding them tummy-down on your forearm. Combined with gentle rocking, this position can feel like a gentle hug to help relieve gas and soothe distress.

When Should I be Concerned?

Taking care of a fussy infant is tough, and it’s easy to feel worn out. Be kind to yourself; it’s okay to ask for help. While most fussiness is normal and not a cause for alarm, there are times when you’ll want to consult with your baby’s healthcare provider.

  • Growth Concerns: If your newborn isn’t gaining well or you’re concerned about breastfeeding, don’t hesitate to reach out to your pediatrician and lactation consultant.

  • Digestive Pain: Painful during or after feedings, excessive spitting up, or persistent crying may indicate a food intolerance, reflux, or other medical issues. Contact your baby’s healthcare provider for guidance and next steps. 

  • Sign of Illness: If your baby has symptoms like vomiting, diarrhea, or a fever, check in with your baby’s healthcare provider immediately.

  • Your Mental Health: Persistent infant crying and sleep deprivation can be a huge stress on new parents. Taking breaks, asking for help, and seeking support for postpartum depression is the best way to protect both you and your baby while coping with the challenges of early parenthood.

  • Safe Sleep: Always place your baby on their back to sleep, on a firm, flat surface. Making sure your bed and baby's sleep space follow safe sleep guidelines is the best way to minimize the risk of infant suffocation or injury if you accidentally fall asleep while breastfeeding.

Most fussiness is temporary and eases as your baby grows and learns new ways to communicate. With patience and comforting strategies, you can help your baby feel calm and secure while strengthening your confidence as a parent. Remember, you are not alone—this guide, your partner, extended family, and healthcare professionals are here to support you through these early months.

Disclaimer: Our classes and accompanying materials are intended for general education purposes and should not replace medical advice. For personalized recommendations, please consult your healthcare provider and/or lactation consultant.