It’s biologically normal for babies to want to be held. Baby wearing meets their natural need for physical contact while making life easier for you too. Around the world, mothers have carried their babies for centuries using fabric wraps, ring slings, and other specially designed carriers. Babywearing offers benefits at every stage of child development—from newborn through infancy and beyond.

Contrary to what you may have heard, it is completely normal for your baby to want to be held and stay close to you. You cannot spoil your little one by holding them. During pregnancy, your baby’s every need was met—they were constantly fed, kept warm, and carried in your womb. After birth, your baby will need time and support to adjust to life outside the womb.

Humans, like apes and kangaroos, are “carry mammals”. Carry mammals need help keeping warm and depend on constant contact and care. Carry mammals are the most immature at birth. In order to survive, carry mammals need to be carried and stay close to their mothers. It can be stressful for your infant to be away from you, so responding to their needs will help build trust and strengthen your bond. Understanding this can boost your confidence as a new parent—your baby wants to be held because that is how they were naturally designed. 

How Does Babywearing Benefit Babies?

  • Happier Baby: Babies who are worn frequently cry less and soothe faster. Being carried calms their nervous system and helps them feel safe in your arms. Babywearing has been shown to help parents recognize and respond to their baby’s cues more easily.

  • Less Colic: For babies with reflux or colic, wearing them upright can support digestion and reduce discomfort after feedings.

  • Infant Development: Wearing your baby keeps them at your level to explore the world safely. This close contact provides security while they experience new environments, sensations, and social interactions—supporting cognitive, social, and emotional development.

  • Reduces Risk of “Flat Head” Syndrome: Plagiocephaly, or flat head syndrome, can occur when babies spend too much time on their backs. Babywearing reduces pressure on the head, helping prevent this condition.

  • Reduces Risk of SIDS: The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends that infants sleep in the same room with their parents until they are at least six months old to minimize the risk of Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS). This applies to naps too. Babywearing allows napping safely in your arms while giving you freedom to move safely and multitask as needed.

  • Physical Development: The movement of your daily activities engages your baby’s core, neck, and back muscles and also builds coordination and spatial awareness. Using a supported, spread-squat or “M-shape” position encourages healthy hip development and reduces the risk of hip dysplasia.

Benefits for Mom

  • Lower Rates of Postpartum Depression: Skin-to-skin contact while wearing your little one promotes breastfeeding, bonding, and the release of oxytocin (the feel-good hormone). Mothers who regularly wear their babies see improvements in their mental health, reporting fewer negative thoughts and lower rates of postpartum depression.
  • Closer Bond: Babywearing reinforces natural instincts that create a secure attachment. Close contact allows you to respond to your baby’s needs, strengthening your emotional connection.
  • Caring for Older Siblings: Babywearing allows you to multitask while keeping your little one safe and close, while you connect and include your older children.
  • Convenience & Freedom: Carrying your newborn in a baby wrap, sling or carrier eliminates the need for a bulky stroller and saves time when running errands or traveling. Many baby carriers have a wide range of sizes that can accommodate older babies also.
  • More Rest: Because babywearing mimics the movements and sounds of the womb, it is a great tool for family members to use for soothing the baby while you get extra rest.
  • Improves Breastfeeding: By keeping your baby close, you will be able to respond more quickly and easily to their feeding cues. This is especially helpful in the first three months, called the fourth trimester, when more frequent feedings means a more abundant milk supply. Babywearing allows for discreet breastfeeding while sitting or standing and breastfeeding in public may be less intimidating.

Babywearing Safety

Safety is essential to make babywearing a positive experience for both you and your little one. Always ensure your infant’s airways are clear, with their chin off the chest, and that the carrier supports their head, neck, and hips appropriately. Make sure the carrier is secure and follow manufacturer guidelines for weight limits and positioning. Avoid activities that could put your infant at risk, such as cooking, carrying hot beverages, or any activity where a fall could occur. Following these simple precautions ensures babywearing remains safe, comfortable, and enjoyable.

Can Others Hold the Baby?

Yes! Allowing others to carry your little one can help with bonding and give you a much-needed break. However, it’s important that your infant is returned to you as soon as they show signs of hunger. Make sure anyone holding your baby knows what cues to watch for and returns them promptly when they notice these signs.

Though learning to babywear may feel a bit challenging at first, the practice is richly rewarding for you, your little one, and any family members who join in. It’s a wonderful tool to support their transition from womb to world while deepening your relationships as a family.

Disclaimer: Our classes and accompanying materials are intended for general education purposes and should not replace medical advice. For personalized recommendations, please consult your healthcare provider and/or lactation consultant.